The post-engagement questions you’re most likely to hear (and how to answer them!)

Being engaged marks the start of a whole new chapter in your relationship, as well as the beginnings of your wedding journey.

While there’s a lot to do even before you start planning your wedding day – read our guide to what’s next once you’re engaged – your family and friends are certain to have their own questions for the bride- and groom-to-be.

In this blog post, we reveal the post-engagement questions you’re most likely to hear, and more importantly, how you should answer them.

How did he pop the question?

Whether your fiancé popped the question the traditional or creative way, with a grand gesture or in a laid-back style, your proposal story is personal to you and one that’s likely to be close to your heart for the rest of your days.

You’ll revel in telling this story for the first 20 times, but what they don’t tell you is just how many more times you’ll have to tell it!

You’ll never be bored telling this story but if repeating the same tale does get tiresome, consider putting it down in writing.

How They Asked is the perfect place to share your proposal story with the wider wedding community. You can also direct your friends and family to your page to read about every last detail. You can post your proposal story to your wedding website or social media profile too.

Would you have chosen this ring?

You’ve probably already shared your just engaged ring selfie and showed off that sparkler countless times in person, but there’s one question that you’ll hear every time – is it what you would have chosen?

Responding with “definitely, I love it!” is the obvious answer, but what if the mere mention of this question gives you doubts?

As One Fab Day explains, honesty is always the best policy when discussing the matter with your fiancé:

“Open communication is really important in a marriage… ‘fessing up in a way that’s clear but kind, is the only way to do it. Don’t place any blame on your partner, that they misread your hints, they should have known your style better or put more thought into their choice. An engagement ring should really be seen as a gift, you need to be gracious rather than bratty about asking for it to be changed.”

Are you going to have a big wedding?

This can also be translated as “am I invited?”. Whichever way the question is put to you, you don’t have to answer it in too much detail.

Those early days of engagement aren’t for defining the finer details of your wedding day, although it’s fun to chat through the ideas you have privately with your partner to get inspired.

Before you can comment on just how big your wedding will be, however, you’ll need to devise your wedding budget, draft a guest list and choose your wedding venue, which happens only when you’re ready to start planning.

Have you picked your wedding party?

There’s also no need to rush when it comes to picking your wedding party. With couples taking months and even years to plan their weddings, picking the VIPs that will support you on and in the run up to your big day shouldn’t be done too early.

Ignore the hints from those closest to you. The right people make wedding planning experience less stressful and far more enjoyable so take your time.

Is your heart set on ticking that first, very important wedding task off your post-engagement to-do list? Take a 3D tour of our fairytale wedding venue or get in touch with the Clearwell Castle team to discuss those big day plans.


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